Lessons from a black bag and white space
White space is a blessing, a privilege many do not even know exists. Some are forced to pivot or make serious changes when grief, pain, sickness or loss come around, but you can pivot without loss or tragedy. Create white space and room to change on your own terms, and this is easy to do […]
The ‘Aboniki’ Mystery
It’s winter in my part of the world. Not the fuzzy kind. It’s dry, sunny, and really cold at night. This brings a lot of flu and a dry cough. When you think of morning routines in this season, I often imagine very cold mornings, dry eyes and blocked noses. As the temperature drops, so does […]
Lessons from a YELLOW ‘SISI’ and HER ‘OYINBO’
I was at the library the other day, and I sat in the children’s section. (After all, are we not all children of God?) A beautiful fair-skinned lady walked in, and behind her was a little ‘white’ boy of about three years. I’m not insecure, so I can openly admire people without shame or prejudice. […]
Are You Charging Your Battery?
Hubby dearest bought me a power bank recently. At first, it felt quite bothersome to carry around, so I would leave it lying around and only use it when there was a power cut for extended periods of time. After a while, I observed that the power bank needed charging. So, I had to pay […]
The Journey of 1000 No’s
Everyone is quick to celebrate success. We all love to win. In a world with instant feedback, likes, and numerous opinion platforms, it’s easy to feel pressured to have loud successes and quick outcomes. ‘Nothing good comes easy’ is a saying that has been said over the years, but seems to be forgotten when it […]
THE BLESSING OF BIRTHMARKS AND IMPERFECTIONS
Everyone on the face of the earth is born unique. Every scar, mole, and birthmark is like nature’s fingerprint on your body uniquely crafted to make you one of a kind. Within reason, and is open to argument, even your tastes and preferences within moral and ethical boundaries were designed uniquely to you. Yes, there […]
THE TRUTH ABOUT SCARS
As I opened up my laptop, my screensaver appeared on the screen. It’s a lovely picture of me, if I dare say so myself. It was taken on a day that was not one of my best days, but has become a precious memory. As I looked closer, I noticed something was wrong with my […]
Dealing with Flaws, Habits and Shadows
Shadows are beams of darkness that are direct products of light. Shadows ‘shine’ brightest in the brightest of lights; they are deemed in the darkness. Shadows exist in different forms, both real and in our minds, souls, emotions or even habits. What does a habit shadow look like? I once had a friend in university […]
WHO BLEW OUT MY CANDLE?
There is a saying that ‘if something makes you happy, keep it to yourself’– This is not true about everything, I believe knowledge that is useful and empowering should be shared – but that quote is said in different forms by many people because some people cannot stand others being happy, or want what everyone […]
UNFORGETTABLE LESSONS FROM A ‘LEARNER DRIVER’
DRIVING LESSONS I am ashamed to say this, but it might be of comfort to someone who feels stuck. It took me more than a decade of driving lessons, actually, to start driving on the road by myself. In my defence, it was because of an accident that I caused in the first 2 weeks […]