Have you ever felt like you were made for more, but you do not know how to go about it, or felt like you need to shrink or reduce your standards or preferences in certain spaces?
This is not about pride, pickiness or inability to adapt or cooperate with people. There are people
who cannot be productive in certain spaces cannot discuss dreams with their family or friends.
Some people are often described as ‘too much’, ‘too neat’, ‘too loud’, too slow, too gentle,
too soft or too kind. What if you have simply evolved, and your environment did not grow with you?
What if you are yet to find a space that accepts your unique gifts and qualities, or you are simply
surrounded by people who are comfortable with average.
When your bowl is too small, you will keep feeling negatively full, you will not feel the need to
stretch your potential or capacity, and will always feel the need to ‘bring things down’.
When your ‘bowl’ is too small, you always question your abilities, feel like everyone else is too slow
or too behind.
You feel like you are unable to fully and truly express yourself, like mediocrity is acceptable.
When your bowl is too small, home feels like a burden, you get tired and stressed even when you
are doing nothing, and you are comfortable with the words ‘burnout’, ‘overwhelmed’ and ‘tired’ not for a week or a month, but even for a whole season or years.
If this resonates with you, here are three things I suggest you do urgently:
1. Study your environment: Is it built to stretch you? Does it inspire you to want to grow and
be better? This is not about criticism or judgment. You need ‘space’ to grow, steps ahead to
want to fill or grow into, without feeling judged or pressured.
2. Study your association: Are there people in your circle who inspire you or make you grow
every time you speak with them?
Are there people who support your dreams? Are there people rooting for you to do more and be more? If you are the only ‘light’, or the brightest light in your circle, you’re either too proud (you have not recognised the value of those around you) or you need to shift association.
3. Study your habits: How do you spend your time? Do an audit or a register of what you do
every day for a week.
If you cannot recall how you spend the hours of your day and how many hours you spend per activity, you are wasting time doing the wrong things or living with the wrong priorities.
Use a journal, a time planner, a tracker or simply write down all the things you did for three days, and you will see where your energy is spent and where your priorities lie.
Many times, we have outgrown systems, spaces, and mindsets that seem comfortable but have
become a prison. It is time for a shift!
Rooting for you always, may you enter in seasons, rooms and relationships that stretch you.
Cheers!
