Lessons from a black bag and white space
White space is a blessing, a privilege many do not even know exists. Some are forced to pivot or make serious changes when grief, pain, sickness or loss come around, but you can pivot without loss or tragedy. Create white space and room to change on your own terms, and this is easy to do […]
Memoirs from a Lonely Street
No. 373 Honeythorne stood at the end of the street, just before the road curved towards the street gate that led into another street. Its numbers were askew, as though someone had tried to rip them apart but had failed. This was what drew my attention to wonder the name of the street this skewed […]
Walking With the Shepherd: Big Lessons from “Little Steps
Little Steps is a nursery school that came to the community library on an excursion while I was there. I usually love the little ones, but the last thing I wanted to hear was “Ring a Ring a Rosie” is being sung in the library. After going out into the sun for a few minutes, […]
I Just Can’t Quit!
“For the good that I would, I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.” — Paul the Apostle, Romans 7:19 Have you ever felt the frustration of doing the very thing you promised yourself you would never do again? The guilt settles quietly at first, then grows louder with every repetition. […]
Why Hard Work Alone Will Never Make You Wealthy
Many people believe that if they just work hard enough, everything will eventually fall into place. This sounds noble and responsible. But it is not true. This is a Lie We Were Taught. From a young age, many of us were told: “Work hard, and you will succeed.” So we followed that path. We studied. […]
The ‘Aboniki’ Mystery
It’s winter in my part of the world. Not the fuzzy kind. It’s dry, sunny, and really cold at night. This brings a lot of flu and a dry cough. When you think of morning routines in this season, I often imagine very cold mornings, dry eyes and blocked noses. As the temperature drops, so does […]
Lessons from a YELLOW ‘SISI’ and HER ‘OYINBO’
I was at the library the other day, and I sat in the children’s section. (After all, are we not all children of God?) A beautiful fair-skinned lady walked in, and behind her was a little ‘white’ boy of about three years. I’m not insecure, so I can openly admire people without shame or prejudice. […]
THE TRUTH ABOUT SELF-CARE
Self-care is not all about scented candles, 90-minute soaks in a luxurious bathtub and pedicures. Self-care is a salad or a piece of fruit, choosing water over fizzy drinks, and tea with one less spoonful of sugar. Self-care is reading a book, switching off the television, and going to bed with the lights off. Self-care […]
Who Turned My Table?
A wheel from my table was missing, and it turned upside down. It toppled over, and no hero was coming, so I turned it over and fixed it. Sometimes you need to roll up your sleeves and do the dirty work. Don’t be afraid to upend your life and start over if you must. It’s […]
Are You Charging Your Battery?
Hubby dearest bought me a power bank recently. At first, it felt quite bothersome to carry around, so I would leave it lying around and only use it when there was a power cut for extended periods of time. After a while, I observed that the power bank needed charging. So, I had to pay […]