DON’T BUILD YOUR DECISIONS ON EMOTIONS!
We often hear people say, ‘Follow your heart.’ While that sounds inspiring, it can also be one of the most misleading pieces of advice when making important life decisions. Emotions are powerful. They shape our experiences, deepen our relationships, and help us connect with others. They are an essential part of being human. However, emotions […]
The blessing of Stitches and a golden jacket.
My sonny dearest has a golden winter jacket. It has faithfully accompanied him through the years, through rough tumbles, strong winds, rainy days, sticky treats and juicy bits. It’s getting a little snug, but sonny won’t let it go. As I stepped out to ‘observe’ the washing line, which simply means wanting to see what […]
Lessons from a black bag and white space
White space is a blessing, a privilege many do not even know exists. Some are forced to pivot or make serious changes when grief, pain, sickness or loss come around, but you can pivot without loss or tragedy. Create white space and room to change on your own terms, and this is easy to do […]
Memoirs from a Lonely Street
No. 373 Honeythorne stood at the end of the street, just before the road curved towards the street gate that led into another street. Its numbers were askew, as though someone had tried to rip them apart but had failed. This was what drew my attention to wonder the name of the street this skewed […]
Walking With the Shepherd: Big Lessons from “Little Steps
Little Steps is a nursery school that came to the community library on an excursion while I was there. I usually love the little ones, but the last thing I wanted to hear was “Ring a Ring a Rosie” is being sung in the library. After going out into the sun for a few minutes, […]
I Just Can’t Quit!
“For the good that I would, I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.” — Paul the Apostle, Romans 7:19 Have you ever felt the frustration of doing the very thing you promised yourself you would never do again? The guilt settles quietly at first, then grows louder with every repetition. […]
Why Hard Work Alone Will Never Make You Wealthy
Many people believe that if they just work hard enough, everything will eventually fall into place. This sounds noble and responsible. But it is not true. This is a Lie We Were Taught. From a young age, many of us were told: “Work hard, and you will succeed.” So we followed that path. We studied. […]
The ‘Aboniki’ Mystery
It’s winter in my part of the world. Not the fuzzy kind. It’s dry, sunny, and really cold at night. This brings a lot of flu and a dry cough. When you think of morning routines in this season, I often imagine very cold mornings, dry eyes and blocked noses. As the temperature drops, so does […]
Lessons from a YELLOW ‘SISI’ and HER ‘OYINBO’
I was at the library the other day, and I sat in the children’s section. (After all, are we not all children of God?) A beautiful fair-skinned lady walked in, and behind her was a little ‘white’ boy of about three years. I’m not insecure, so I can openly admire people without shame or prejudice. […]
THE TRUTH ABOUT SELF-CARE
Self-care is not all about scented candles, 90-minute soaks in a luxurious bathtub and pedicures. Self-care is a salad or a piece of fruit, choosing water over fizzy drinks, and tea with one less spoonful of sugar. Self-care is reading a book, switching off the television, and going to bed with the lights off. Self-care […]