HOW TO DEAL WITH FRENEMIES, SABOTAGERS, OR JEALOUS PEOPLE.

There are people who are kind, good-hearted and wish you well, but you may not meet them
every day or at least in your circle of influence in large numbers.

Unfortunately, some people around you may not care about your growth and may be willing to go an extra mile to hinder or stagnate you. This is not about hate, revenge or making enemies; it’s more about coexisting harmoniously with those who may or may not like you, while pushing ahead to be the best you can be and serving and loving others without bitterness or resentment.

Refuse to be discouraged or become paranoid or hateful. You don’t have to be naïve or pretend such people do not exist as well.

Here are some simple tips to help.

1. Don’t be too eager to announce good things before they happen. While you’re still in the planning phase or execution phase, keep your good news to yourself. This prevents disappointment or sabotage. By all means, announce good things in your life, but wait till it is executed past the point that it cannot be stopped or cancelled.

2. Be quick to discern jealous people around you. When people try to dismiss or belittle your achievements, speak badly about you behind your back or try to make you feel small in front of other people, they are most likely envious of you.

Some pretend to be happy about your success, but deep down do not wish you well. You need to be alert and use your ‘third eye’, the eye of your spirit, instinct, or gut, to identify those people. Pay attention to their behaviour when you have good news, and when you have bad news. Don’t dismiss their disappointment in your joy or lack of empathy in your sorrows; they are simply revealing who they truly are.

3. Allow people to earn your trust. Access to your deepest thoughts and feelings is not for
everyone; it is for those who have stood by you, covered you, and cheered for you. Your inner
circle should have only those who mentor you, support you and have proven to want the
best for you over time.

Know the difference between your inner circle, your fans and the general crowd. Everyone cannot be your friend. There are people you may have known for a long time, who should still be placed as acquaintances.

4. Treat all people with respect and kindness always. The more jealous people speak against
you or try schemes or tricks to hurt you, the kinder and more gracious you must become.
Snow White in the fairy tale never went after the wicked queen stepmother. Cinderella moved on happily married to the prince and did not try to get back at her stepmother or stepsisters.

Have you dealt with friendly enemies? Have you been betrayed by someone you thought was a friend? Good people exist and are out there. I pray you receive wisdom to recognise them, and heal from every bad experience.

Rooting for you always, cheers to a better, stronger and wiser version of you!